I have lost contact with the matahari in Bali.... Do not know why.... My emails have been unanswered..... May be she is busy or she got intrusion from her other half to shut up and not to provide informations to me anymore.... May be she is angry with me for making some suggestions, which she did not like..... As a friend in the present circumstance I had to advise her whether she like it or not.... What are friend for when in a time like this.... Just to keep quiet..... May be she did not like when I say that '' falling down means that you have to learn to stand up, you would not be able to understand what fallen down mean if you did not fall before". To me I believe in the Malay saying " Jatuh itu untok bangun" translated ' fall down is so that you could stand up .... Most people blame others when they fall down....... They never want to blame themselves.... Fallen down is past happening.... No.. We could not stop that which has happen, except if we could take control of time and reversed or playback the incident.... but we just could not do that at least as yet.... I do not know what the future is..... So if you fall... You should take it in strike.... Get up with all your might.... And start thinking why did you fall..... Analyzed it and start to understand the cause and learn from it and go forward with greater zeal and with pride... Remember if you do not fall.....How are you to know how to stand up.... So stand up and stand tall and look forward and you would gain more from the fall. you would not understand the meaning of fall if you had not fallen........ Anyway I hope to make contact with the matahari again once she realized that I meant well..... I also told her that if you want others to change, you yourself had to change first...... We live in a very dynamic world and thing changes every minutes..... If we stick to the old ways and refuse to understand the changing world, then we are lost for ever..... A friend of mine is trying very hard to change the working habit of his work forces in an establishment and he is getting depress since the local work forces has not really change to his liking..... I told him to look at the cause of his problem.... May be he did not like what I say..... Well He is the Boss... Boss always think they are right even when the are wrong.... That was the old philosophy.... It work then.... But in today's world it would just not work.... Your just could not dictate now..... It is a democracy...... and in a democracy you do not dictate... You get people to work with you to achieve a common goal.... That is how it is done now.... So if you still believe in the old way and still bossing around.... then you can forget about the productive of your work forces.... They would only do their work whenever you dictate and once you are not around, they would just not work.... They are not committed and this would give you more headache, like what is happening to my friend in this far away establishment that he is made to run......So that is the way thing are now..... Thing changes and that's what make life interesting.... Full of challenges...... Call it an adventure...... It would not be interesting if the adventure is just a straight line..... There must be obstacles on the way and while on the journey you try to get through these obstacles..... You would find a way to solved the problem encounter on the way and then when your reach your destination you are rewarded with satisfaction...... The journey of life if like that... There are no easy way..... But you can make it easy or hard depend on how you look at things..... If you take it as a challenges then you would surely succeed..... For leaders are always prepared to accept challenges and with his intelligence would eventually succeed..... That is the way to success......